We drafted up our bridal party list within a week of our engagement but we haven't had a chance to ask all the participants. Here's the breakdown (role descriptions are at the end of this post):
8 principal sponsors (4 couples)
1 matron of honor
1 best man
5 bridesmaids
5 groomsmen
1 or 2 flower girls
1 ring bearer
1 coin bearer
and the secondary sponsors:
2 candle sponsors
2 veil sponsors
2 cord sponsors
As of today, we've only asked these people to participate:
the matron of honor
all the bridesmaids
2 of the principal sponsors and...
tonight, Cory finally asked Ethan to be the best man!! They had dinner and by the time I came back from the gym, they were already at the condo. I wanted to give Ethan a hug but I was all gross from working out. He said he feels honored that we asked him and we're so happy that he accepted... so it was a great night =) Now, Cory can proceed with asking the rest of his groomsmen!!
Role Descriptions
The traditional Filipino wedding ceremony, or kasalan, in the Christian community is unique in that it adds three more ceremonies into the basic wedding rites. These additional ceremonies are the veil, the cord, and the coin ceremonies, or arrhae. The entire wedding ceremony takes just a little bit longer, and a few more participants are required, but it makes for a more memorable wedding day.
Typically, the wedding participants are the Priest, the Bride, the Groom, Maid or Matron of Honor, Best Man, Bridesmaids, Groomsmen, Flower Girl, Ring and Coin Bearer, Bible Bearer (i don't think we're having one), Parents of the Bride, Parents of the Groom, Primary Sponsors, and Secondary Sponsors.
Primary and Secondary Sponsors
Respectfully called Ninong (male sponsor) and Ninang (female sponsor), this is a position of honor. One cannot choose his parents, but they can choose their godparents. Primary Sponsors are like second parents to whom the couple could depend upon encouragement and counsel in their married years. Behind the primary sponsors, march the secondary sponsors. These secondary sponsors play a part in the wedding ceremony, and each couple has specific functions: lighting the unity candle, putting on the veil and the cord for their respective ceremonies.
Ceremonies
Arrhae or Coin Ceremony: The arrhae/arras is/are carried by a coin bearer who marches with the ring bearer during the processional and recessional. The Priest/Minister then drops 13 pieces of coins (silver or gold) called arras into the Groom's waiting hands, who in turn drops it into the Bride's hands. The Bride then puts her hand above the Groom's then drops the arras into his hands again. The metal tinkling of the coins being passed from one pair of hands to the other signifies abundance and success in the couple's joint efforts.
Veil Ceremony: In the Catholic ceremony, the Priest continues with the nuptial mass until the "Sanctus". When the bell for the Sanctus rings, it is also a signal for the veil sponsors to come up to the altar. Together, they pin a veil from the groom's shoulders, extending it to cover the bride's head and shoulders. This symbolizes the union of two people 'clothed' as one.
Cord Ceremony: The Cord Ceremony follows immediately after. The Cord Sponsors come up to where the Bride and Groom are kneeling, and put a figure of eight cord over the veils that are on the heads and shoulders of the Bride and Groom. This cord symbolizes unity and the infinite bond of marriage.
Pictured: veil and cord on the bride and groom
Candle Ceremony: The Candle Ceremony is first and last. As soon as all the primary and secondary sponsors have been seated, the Candle Sponsors proceed to the altar where they light the two side candles beside the middle and larger (unity) candle. Later on in the ceremony, the bride and groom will use the two side candles to light the larger candle. This represents the two lives and two spirits who will be joined together. The flame from the candles symbolizes God's presence within the union.